YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I agree, first thing you need to do is stop taking his morning phone call. Like we all say, easier said than done, but it will get him thinking. After you do it for the first time, you will have this feeling of like, "YES, I did it" and kind of have a good feeling! I know, weird ;) You don't need him and he doesn't deserve you. Like this one e-mail says, there is someone out there wishing they were yours ....... God has a plan and we just need to be patient ..... it's hard sometimes, actually ALOT, but in the end, you will look back and be like, "I was upset about him WHY?" ... LOL!!!!!

Been there, done that. Finally chose to leave my job rather than go thru pain of seeing & talking to him. His actions are telling U he is no longer interested in an affair. Plus he doesn't want you to create a problem for him, which you could as he is your boss & married.
Forget about him & take care of you & do what you need to do to move on emotionally.

He invited you to HANG OUT with him and his wife? That's freakin crazy!!

thank you so much for your advise. it's been really hard to deal with. Pretty sad you have to start taking antidepressants to help you get through this. Most days I'm real good about it but then somedays all I want to do is cry. I actually had to drive this weekend to where he lives now & didn't call or text him. He called this morning & I said something about being down that way. He said "you should've stopped by & went to the concert with us. You could've stayed at the house." Really??? I just told him that I couldn't do that & he just said "hmmm" I think I'm slowly getting to were it doesn't bother me. The only reason I don't scream & cuss him out is because he's 1 of my boss. I really need the job. Don't get me wrong, he's not the kind to hold anything over my head so I would be afraid i'd lose my job. He's a very caring & sweet person. He just never felt the same way I did but he sure made me feel like he did. I just don't understand why he still stays in contact with me. I've never asked him to leave his wife & he knew that. What's making everything so hard is that he says 1 thing but then says another. He says he doesn't feel for me like that but then turns around and says he has stronger feelings for me but will never tell me. I guess I just want to believe that he really loved me & wants to be with me but can't. Hopefully these meds will kick in soon. lol

Affairs are THE WORST thing you can do to yourself. I don't know too many people who have successfully navigated an affair, meaning, she has gotten the guy to leave his wife. Affairs are so exciting at first (so I gather because I’ve never had one), but then reality hits you and you realize that you’re “the other woman,” someone you have never aspired to be! You need to think about the gross stuff. For example, he lives with his wife. He sleeps with his wife. He holds his wife when they watch TV. He wakes up in bed with her every single morning. He calls you because he wants and likes the attention. If you’re going to get over him, you have to think like that. And then you have to wean yourself off of him somehow or another. For example, not taking his morning phone calls would be a GREAT start!!