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Well, i'm going to write so I can vent some of this. I was in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for a year. any ways I met him back in germany both our parents are in the service so yeah. When I first met him I didn't think I would ever be so obsessive over him. I didn't even think he was cute. So then once school started agian i begain to realize how attracted I was to him to his personality at first. Then I started to have a huge crush on him. Fortunatly he felt the exact same way as a matter of fact he liked me more than I liked him. then my mom got pcs (permanent change of station) He said he wouldn't break up with me because of it that we could do a long distance relationship but, I guess not he broke up with me. And not only that but he asked another girl out while he was still going out with me just to see if she would say yes or no and if she said no he would stay with me! We went out for a year and this is how he treats me! ugh. ever since he broke up with me I'm going crazy! Its kinda not normal Im always stalking him and he broke up with me a year ago. I don't think this feeling for him will go away. I can't control myself im always looking through his profile hoping not to see any females talking to him. When I do see it I get a lil jelouse and try not to think about it and forget it but I get sucked right back into it and can't stop thinking about him wishing he was still with me. I mean he was my first love but im not sure that this is normal i mean its been a year since. He's moved on and I need to. I try to do all these things and I try to use advice from people but its like nothing will stop me from thinking about him or stalking him. When I say
I think about I mean that I think about him all day every day. well not all day but pretty much every day. I miss him so much im going crazy. Im becoming a crazy freak . It's like im a lil inspector gadget. lol
MJAC wrote 660 Days Ago (neutral) 0I totally understand what it's like to be obsessive about someone. But at the same time, it sounds like the only reason you're obsessive is because you equate a time when you WERE happy to him and you can't let go of that feeling, accept that he's an awful person and move on with your life.
What I suggest in these sorts of cases are (1) Get The Breakup Workbook so it can shed some light on the situation. (2) I'd imagine that you also fantasize about your ex quite a bit. So I suggest that you slowly start fantasizing about someone else. It could be a celebrity, or just a mystery man...but imagine yourself in certain (personal) situations with anyone else... and replace your ex with this person. The more you disassociate your ex with feelings of lust or just positive feelings in general, the easier it will get to imagine yourself liking someone else. (3). Wear a rubber band. Every time you start looking at his FB page or anything else, find someone - anyone - and have them snap it as hard as they can. Or, when you feel like stalking him, get up and take a walk and remind yourself of all the reasons why you should not - mainly because if/when you do find out that he's with someone else, you end up feeling bad about yourself. (4). Put yourself on an online dating site. YOU DON'T HAVE TO DATE, OR EVEN TALK TO ANYONE ELSE, but I think just knowing that even one person (or a multitude of them) is interested in you will help you realize that there are other people out there...that you're attractive, and that you're worthwhile.
Try all of those things, then get back to me about your progress. There's always counseling if none of these things work. But you're only 21, girl! There are soooo many men out there who would love to date you. You just have to be open to it!0 points







