i'm feeling you .. i guess what u r doing is right .. u should get outta bed and start doing things .. hanging out with friends and family is the best way for distraction and instant fun .. and remember that we r all going through the same thing and you're not alone .. may god give us the strength to move on .

Ok well here it goes....

My ex and I dated for 11 months. We first met on an internet dating site and hit it off right away. He had a college degree, a really nice job, a home and it seemed like he was on the right track with life. That was exactly what I was looking for in a man. During our 11 months, we went back to his hometown in Ohio and visited his parents twice. They were so very nice and it felt like home to me. They also visited us in Illinois twice. I've never really taken anyone home to my parents but I though he was the one so I introduced him to them. They took to him like a son-in-law. It was great. He told me in the beginning that he has never dated anyone before except for in high school and it was definately true. He had a hard time figuring out how to be cordial and also had a hard time showing pda. I think he was a little nervous when we did that. Over the months, we got closer and he gave me his virginity. So in this relationship there were a lot of firsts on both sides. We never fought or argued. He said that he loved me tons of times. He helped me graduate college, I helped him get out and see the town. We talked about marriage, kids and our future together. Sometimes I could see that he was reluctant to look that far into the future but he still showed interest. We also talked about moving in together and at first he was really excited...not about living together but saving money. I told him that is not a reason to move in together so we kind of dropped the issue. After about a month, I started thinking about it more and more so brought it up again and he said that he does not want to move in with me if he got another apartment. I took it kind of hard. We talked it out and I thought everything was ok but the next day, he sent me a text message saying that he was going to come over and talk to me. I called him up and asked joklingly if he was breaking up with me and he said yep. I said are you kidding me? He said nope.

He came over that night only to pick up his vaccum that I borrowed and the first thing that he said was "Where's my vaccum?" He also told me that he does not love me, never had and didnt want to be with me. He said that he does not see getting married to me and that its over. He never wants to see me again. His face was stone cold and his words cut like a knife. I asked him if he felt bad for treating me this way and talking to me like he doesnt even know me and he said that he feels better and told me to move out of his way. He said "I've said my peace now let me leave!" I was soo extremely confused. He was loving to me the entire time we were together and now, stone cold face. He said that he doesnt even care for me. Its been 11 days now and I have not heard from him at all. His mom and grandmother have sent me messages to say how sorry they are to hear the news and that they are praying for me. I have tried to reach out to his mom to see what is going on and all she keeps replying to me is "praying for you". She did say that she loves me like a daughter and that she is sorry things ended this way but nothing to anwer the millions of questions I have.

I found out 7 days after we broke up that he re-activated his account for online dating. Im so confused and hes moving on. Ive been crying ever since he broke up with me and hes been in good moods. My family is mad, my friends are worried and Im confused still. I need relief from my life.....please help!

YES! I think if you're interested in reading books to get over a breakup, you should read AS MANY AS POSSIBLE! Go to the library and check out a few books & start reading. It'll help fill the time that you spend thinking about your ex with something positive. Also, read our blog: breakupadvice.wordpress.com. The Workbook is great, but it needs to be done little by little and not all at once. Also, if you'd like to post your story on a blog or on our forum, that may help relieve some of the stress (venting is really cathartic!), or answer some of the posts on the forum as well, that may help you look at your relationship from a different perspective. Hope that helps. I'm sorry you're hurting.