I think that the hardest part about my breakup with my ex was trying to create boundaries so that neither one of us had to give up our friends or our social lives. We share a common set of friends (as you probably know because I have whined about it enough) and well this weekend it yet again another event that we were both invited to. It is my friends birthday so big plans were made for a night out on the town. Initially I was super pumped about going because I thought that the ex would not be there. I have started to assume over the last month or so that if the event is for someone that one of us is better friends with the other will back of and not attend. Well I saw today that he is attending (according to facebook). In the past I would just go and tell myself that I could manage it with him there. While I think I probably could manage it I do not think I would have as much fun as I would otherwise. I am kind of at a loss because at this point I don't really want to go because I do not want to run into him and akwardly try to avoid him the whole night (I would try to be nice and at least say hello but he is pretty dead set on ignoring me I have found out from others). Anyways, I don't know if I would be a bad friend for not going, but I mean, sometimes you have to put yourself before your friends right? I will probably end up doing something with a different group of people but it just makes me feel bad.