When a breakup is unexpected or maybe its been expected for a while but it still hurts when it happens....we all seek closure.  But is "closure" truely possible?  I am starting to believe it isn't.  We seek certain "band-aids" in order to heal our wounds. Converstaions, answers to questions, last chats, our belongings, etc...but none of these things provide closure.  They just put a band aid to your feelings.  I think in order to seek that optimal goal of "closure" we need to be ok with what has happened.  Believing that this was supposed to happen, and discover what we can learn from this situation.  These learnings will help us grow, and become a better person, in turn, knowing what we want, and realizing what we deserve. Perhaps, eventually over a long period of time closure eventually takes place. But i do not think it is possible within the first days, weeks or months of the relationship ending. Just my thoughts...what do you think?!?

xoxo

   marilyn