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15.12.2009 (266 Days Ago)
well here it goes... my first love now my ex-boyfriend. He told me last night that he "still has feelings for me and cares about me" (on a text msg). but understand that he's in a relationship, and it's someone close to me. He goes on with this he said that he would like to get back together while he's with her...so basically he'll have two gfs her and me and then added that i dont tell anyone esp her also that he "loves us both very much is all". Now what what the f**k do i do now. Last night it all started with i simple conversation but i felt he was busy cuz he would reply late so i asked why and he said he was talking to her, at that time i always stop talking to him. He noticed and said "he thought it was funny" that i do that. I replied "that's not funny" thats how this whole thing came about.. the question about getting back together. To me i think it's all a joke or a trap, just to think he'd joke about that knowing that i wanted that more than anything hurts a lot and makes him THE SCUM OF THE EARTH!!!!!!!!! Advise me ladies asap!!! :)
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summertime wrote 265 Days Ago (neutral) 0I want to echo what MJAC said. It does sound like you want to win him back. But I think that being the other woman is a scary prospect. You could get beaten up, or you could be forced into "slopppy seconds" as they call it. It's yucky. The Breakup Workbook really helped me. So maybe you SHOULD try it. But it is time to move on sweetie. He has. I'm sorry to say it. But you deserve WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY better than to be a chick on the side, you know? Plus think if he brags about it to his friends. How will you feel about it if they knew? Probably bad.0 points
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IHeartDrDorian wrote 266 Days Ago (neutral) 0Like the others have said, I think that this is a really bad idea.
I completely understand where you are coming from. My first love did the same thing to me. While he was MARRIED he wanted me to hook up with him on the side, because he still "loved" me. Like yourself, I contemplated it because I wanted to win him back - but then I thought about it and how it was a really bad idea. And I am so glad that I made that decision because I would have felt so shitty about myself if I had done anything with him. After I finally realized that, I cut off all contact with him - even changed my number. I'm not saying to do anything that drastic - but I can't tell you how much better I felt after I cut him out of my life for good. It was a relief for me.
Try to stay strong!0 points -
MJAC wrote 266 Days Ago (neutral) 0Do you have The Breakup Workbook? Are you following it at all? I think it's time for you to realize that you're not going to "win" him back. Especially if he wants you to be his chick on the side. Face facts sweetie. I know it hurts...I know he is your first love...but it's time to let go.0 points -
journeywoman wrote 266 Days Ago (neutral) 0I think it's silly to go from being the main woman to 'the other woman.' I realize you don't want to be alone, but this is crossing a line. and it makes you devious and sneaky and not a very good person. So think hard before you give in to this. You'll end up being miserable and you'll hate yourself. I can't believe you're actually considering thing. Really? Aren't you better than that??0 points
