i feel every word of what you wrote here. :( i wish i had some insight on it, but it seems so impossible to cut them off - i've tried with mine so many times and end up falling right back "in line".. i wish i could go thru hypnosis or something, find the strength somewhere to let him truly go.

I am on day 12 of no communication and baffled somewhat how I am doing it. Everytime I get the urge to call or text I pick up the phone and dial a friend even if I do not want to because almost everytime after my friends and I talk I feel better and know I made the right decision. The man I was involved with I have known for over 5 years and was a friend in the begining. We reconnect ed this last year and dated and up until then I never completely removed myself from his life. I hung on to different things and when we got together again everything in me meant it was for a reason but now the cards have played out differently. I have removed everything that reminds me of him this time including e-mail addresses etc... I cannot begin to imagine another in my life but know that to ever open my heart to someone I must close things that will remind me of him. Do I still think he may come back? Yeah there is this part but I cannot do what I did over the past few years always leaving a door open for him and nobody else. Rely on your close friends because they can usually talk you down off that ladder from those urges to text and call.

I don't know if you said this already, but were you already friends before you got together? Because if you weren't, then you didn't need him in your life before, and you don't now. It's a lot easier to get over someone if you cut off all contact with him. I know it'll suck, but it does get easier every day.